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Posts archive for: 26 May, 2008
  • Feeling Drained!

    Well it's been just over six hours since my daughter's visit ended and although it went well I feel physically and emotionally drained. I keep mentally 'replaying' snippets of conversation we had during the ten days she spent with me. I keep asking myself have I done enough? have I said the right things? I just don't know.

    The next bit is down to her and I'm encouraging her to do more for herself rather than let others molly-coddle her. Am I being too hard on her? I really don't know. Her current boyfriend thinks she should be protected and this is where our opinions differ - I think that she needs to regain control of her life.

    Her sister and I had discussed this and we both agree that her 'condition' has worsened since she moved in with her boyfriend. He has encouraged her to reduce her working hours and she has become very dependent on him both emotionally and financially. She has lost her sparkle and vitality and spends too much time lazing about.

    I only hope that he doesn't persuade her against keeping her doctor's appointment.

  • The Hardest Part?

    The past few months have been extremely difficult. My daughter virtually pushed me away by repeatedly saying things like "I'm fine" "Don't worry about me" "I know what I'm doing" "I'm grown up". All the time I knew that things weren't alright and that she wasn't coping but I had to respect her wishes and "leave her to get on with it" and that for me was the hardest part.

    Just over two weeks ago I got the call saying "Mum can I come and stay, I do need help". She booked a one way ticket and arrived a few days later. When she arrived she was unhappy and confused and didn't want to face up to going back. This morning when she set off back she was much happier and ready to get some professional help.

    The process has been painful but I must be there for my daughter. I hope that her GP will realise that she needs further help.

    I will telephone her on Wednesday and see how she's getting on.

  • The Visit #3

    This morning was one of hugs and tears as I waved my daughter off.

    During the last ten days I have seen her become more relaxed and happy in herself. Last night she sat down and wrote out a list of things to mention to her GP. I deliberately didn't have any input and was pleased that she seems to have covered all the points that need raising with him. There was no point in me putting words or ideas into her head.

    Over the next few days I'll try to write a more detailed account of her problems.

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